I have always loved the feeling of being restrained when having sex, but I have rarely explores this option as it takes a lot of trust to be able to do this.  Let's face it, there are not a lot of people that you can put this type is trust into their hands.  I am a successful, highly educated woman who had always stood on her own two feet.  I am a type "a" control freak in my daily life.  Then I met my fiancé.  He broke down the walls I had built up with patience, love and understanding. He proved his devotion and how much he cared for me over many years.  Oddly, the more he proved his devotion, the more I find my inhibitions being freed.  For his piece, he is a highly sexual, masculine being, but had been in a very vanilla and closed off sexual relationship for the bulk of his life; he was just happy with sex when he got it and never imagined anything more.  I was too in a closed off relationship with my ex husband, but I had always enjoyed sex and it many facets.  We were both ready for an awakening when we met.  I couldn't have guessed, however, the kind if sexual needs that bubbled under the surface for me and how it would speak to his hidden needs too!  It started with sharing our sexual fantasies, then quickly turned into making some if the desired fantasies come true.  We were enjoying not being made ashamed of our wants.  But something was happening to me the more alive he became.  His masculinity started to show up with more confidence.  His need to care for me and to please me sexually increased.  The confident control and sexual mastery began to take hold...and frankly that shit turned me on and made me want to see more of it. His control made me want to submit; it made me want to be controlled; it made me yearn for it.  The more I yearned for it, the more he wanted to give me what I wanted.   One day he playfully swatted my ass and caught it just right so that it ended up being a solid hard smack.  He started apologizing and asking me if I was alright, but all I kept thinking was how turned on I got.  And that is how our journey began.  I am finding more out about myself and submission and he is about himself and domination.  I am discovering that submission is not what I thought or feared it would be, but instead a powerful choice lending itself to a mutual trust and exchange built on something deep and lasting.  This is a journey that I am on and I am bringing you along because it may dispel for you the myths that it is dispelling for me.